Having kids and their receiving of gifts is a lot more dramatic than I expected. I have given many outfits at baby showers or as birthday presents to relatives or friends kids. I don't expect to ever actually see the kid wearing the outfit when I'm around. If I see them in it on Facebook or someone sends me a picture then it's a nice bonus and I appreciate the parents thinking to send it to me. I have done the same with friends and family, texted them a picture when they are in an outfit so they can see it, and see that I didn't return it :) But in no way do I think the should dress their child in an outfit I gave when they come to visit me or I visit them.
This logic, I have found, is not shared by everyone. I have relatives that fully expect to see my children dressed in an outfit they have purchased for them when they see our kids. I figured this out by the little comments here and there when they were NOT wearing an outfit they bought. The comments sound something like "Oh I thought they would be wearing the sweaters I bough them today."....not exactly subtle. Point taken!
