Code Red!

Dining out with small children is hard.  I wish I had the kids that sat nicely through dinner so everyone could enjoy themselves.....I don't and that's my reality, yet we still try.  Friday night we went to Swiss Chalet for dinner, yes we are super fancy but there are only a few choices here in Wasaga Beach.  It was super busy and the kids food came out first which is great then we can get them started and settled in to eating.  They start eating and still no dinners for us.  They finish eating and still no dinners for us.....this is not looking good.  Phil left the table for a minute, Mia runs to follow and Melody freaks out for daddy.  In order to save the hearing of the poor people at the booth behind us I pick up Melody and while passing my husband I call a code red, abort mission.  That means get our food to go i'll meet you in the car.

It is one of the most embarrassing moments as a parent when you have to haul a screaming child out of a busy restaurant.  But I have to say I enjoyed my dinner much more when we got home and put the kids to bed and could eat peacefully.  It won't always be this way, (I hope) eventually we can enjoy dinners out together again but when my husband suggested going for dinner last night, and as much as I would have liked to NOT cook dinner, I said no thank you :)

Some relationships aren't always the way we would want them to be.  Some we wish could be a closer relationship and are strained for whatever reason.  When I have a relationship like this I lose sleep, I stress, I try to figure out how the relationship got to this point, I try to figure out ways that can repair it and bring it closer, I literally age myself from the toil I put myself through.

Low and behold I was watching "Flipping Out" a design/reality show with Jeff Lewis.  It half about his life as an interior designer/house flipper and half about his personal life.  So he was going to have lunch with his father and he's talking about their relationship and he even said it's not the relationship he would hope for but he can either accept that relationship the way it is or have no relationship at all.

I didn't think I would be getting inspiration from that show, other than design ideas, but what he said really hit me and kind of gave me some relief.  I can either let this age me more, or submit control and accept it for what it is.  It may be this way forever which again I have to accept, and I can just keep praying for resolve and pray that it could get better in the future.

When It's Hard to Respect Our Elders......

We have been taught since a young age to respect our elders, but sometimes it can be hard when they are clearly not respecting us.

I haven't been to the movies since I was pregnant with Melody...so about 2 years now.  I managed to escape on Saturday for a movie with a friend which was awesome.  As the movie is just starting I check my phone one last time and answer a quick text to my husband who is home with our kids and couldn't find something he needed for the girls.  To be clear my phone made NO sound whatsoever I had it on vibrate.  I sent it down beside me on top of my purse.  A few seats down from me there was an older couple, probably in their 70's.  She looked at me and said (in a very rude voice) "can you turn that thing off"  I apologized because the screen was still bright, assuming that's what upset her, and flipped my phone over.  Then she made a very loud tisk sound like that was just not good enough for her.  So my movie was off to a great start and I was pretty peeved at her.  So I got her attention and I said I'm sorry but I'm not turning my phone completely off I have 2 small kids at home.  Again I got another tisk.

Sorry lady that's just how it is.  I'm not going to be unreachable when my kids are at home in case I am needed, I'm sure everyone else does the same.  I didn't use or touch my phone the rest of the movie but anytime I reached into my purse or made noise with my snacks she was giving me dirty looks.  Even when we left my friend saw her shoot me another one when we were going down the stairs.

I really had to bite my tongue with her, and I did because she was older but sometimes that doesn't seem fair that she can get away with that behavior and we hold back and use the "she's older" excuse.  However I did play the "I'm pregnant" card a lot when I was moody or hungry or didn't want to do any house work so I'll let it pass this time lady.......